I have been under the weather and a bit mia but thankfully Sara is here to save the day with this post.
When you’ve just been through a breakup, it can be a difficult and emotional time for you. No doubt you’re feeling vulnerable and upset. It’s easy to beat yourself up and over analyse things, wondering where you went wrong. This isn’t healthy, and you need to avoid doing this where you can.
Instead, what you need to do is approach the breakup with maturity and confidence. You have some options that you can focus on here. These will help you determine how to behave and react following your split. Use these ideas to mould yourself into the perfect woman to take on the fallout of your breakup head on.
Get Over Him
The first option is to get over him. Now this might seem easier said than done, but in reality it’s straightforward. After a relationship ends, it’s emotional attachment that makes things the most difficult. This kind of attachment can be triggered by visual and audio reminders of the ex. So, for instance, a song might remind you of him. Or there may be some of his things still left at your place. Well, you’re going to need to be strong and disciplined here.
First off, stop playing the song. However much you might want to. However much you like the song. Don’t play it anymore. Also, make sure you get rid of his stuff. Either make sure you (or someone else) get it back to him. Or throw it away. Having these reminders around makes it more difficult to get over the relationship.
If you’re still smarting from a messy breakup, there’s always the option of getting even. The best way to do this is to make sure that your life rocks from now on. The aim here is to try to win the breakup. This is the best approach to getting even.
So, once you’ve calmed down after the initial split, you need to look at how to get even. For one thing, you could start by changing your image. Think about getting a makeover, perhaps dye your hair, change your wardrobe, etc. Make sure you look as stunning as possible. Work on other areas of your life to improve them. Once you’ve done all this, you need to arrange a ‘chance’ encounter so he can see what a mistake he made dumping you in the first place.
Get Him Back
If you’re not quite ready for either of those choices, then there’s another option and that’s getting him back. Now, this is a complicated process that’s going to take a lot of dedication and mental discipline to accomplish. You need to be disciplined, and you’ve got to have patience. There are quite a few ways you can initiate contact when it’s finally time to begin your plan of action.
For starters, you might think about the text approach. Have a look at the review of Michael Fiore’s guide at ExBackExpertise for incredible tips on texting your way back into his life. Alongside the text strategy, you might want to arrange a few (but not too many) face to face meetings. Then there are phone calls and social media. You need to be sensible and plan your strategy out carefully if you want success.
Breakups are hard for everybody, of course they are. However, that doesn’t mean you should spend your time sitting around moping over some guy. Instead, you need to take control and be the proactive one. Don’t let anyone else dictate your destiny. You’re in control of your own life, so grab it by the horns right now!